Dear You!

How is life? I hope its going great. And by great , i dont assume everything is perfect at ur end. I'm only hoping that whatever u r dealing with right now in life, u r doing it with faith that everything is going to be okay!

Let me tell u about something which i really wish people could understand a little more. Yesterday i found the internet flooded with Arjun Bhardwaj's( a guy who committed suicide) facebook video where he had showed steps to commit suicide right before he actually committed one.

This was bound to follow with a lot of articles on depression, on filty rich spoilt kids, on parents who dont love their children much, a society that doesn't care, blah blah. Every platform is coming up with some sort of "gyaan".

But let me ask you, how many of us think abt these things on a normal day to day basis? Why there's only when the alarm rings that we wake up?

I am nobody to give some gyaan here. But i am here to make my point very clear and crisp. Almost everybody of us are going through some sort of mental stress . Its happening because we have become too obsessed with the competition to win against each other. In this whole process, the concept of "we" is diminishing to "me".

My dear friend, most of us are just too exhausted yet we are not broken. We dont need anyone to fix us. All we need is someone who can listen to us. Someone who can just be there with us to experience the silence as well the chaos we are struggling with. And each us must strive to become that "someone ". Each of us should start caring a little more and stop acting ignorant a little less. And that's how we need to take ourselves ahead.

We were not born to live alone. That's what the other side of the life is meant for. The purpose of this life is to love ; give love, receive love and most importantly be the love yourself. We are here to hold hands and walk together.

If all of us strive towards reaching our most loving state, then may be we would start to make a progress from "me" towards "we" .  Summing up with a quote by Jane Goodall- " Only if we understand , we can care. Only if we care , we will help. Only if we help, shall we be saved."


With love,
Nidhi.

Broken Car!

They'll tell you its not love
They'll claim they know love
Oh what an irony it is
When they themselves haven't reached the depth 

I wonder is there a scale
That supposedly measures love.
Oh how wonderful that would have been
If i was blessed with one.

What I had known though 
Was that love is beyond measures.
Its either there or not.
Its a warm hand on your heart,
You either feel it or not.

It doesn't make you nervous 
It doesn't make you shy
It makes you who you are
As if you are there painting your own sky.

Love grows deeper and deeper
Even if reciprocated from far
Only when it doesn't 
It stays there like a broken car.

Dear You!

Its been a while since I wrote to you. I was just thinking lately of writing something about the question which almost all of us have been asked in some or the other way by different people for different reasons i.e Why aren't you in relationship? Are you still single? If yes then why? And most of us , including you and me have answered by saying that we want to focus on our careers or that in the past we have been heartbroken so we dont believe in relationships anymore, etc and etc.

But tell me, is being in relationship or not being in one needs to be justified with only these types of cliched answers? Don't we have a choice to make , especially the women out here who are brought up with the thought of being weak and vulnerable and that our safety and honour is assured only when tied with a man, whether we want to remain alone or be with  a romantic partner? As soon as a woman reaches her first quarter of her age, she is bombarded with questions of marriage and relationships. She is told that now is the time and that you must settle with a man who will love and protect you. Really? Is it?

Today i want to ask you about it...do you really think that one should get into a relationship just for the sake of being in one? Or marriage and relationships are bounded by the age factor? Isn't it supposed to be a matter of our own choice and our own reasons.

So let me tell you about my own reasons for not dating somebody and not getting into a relationship with someone else. First of all I will clear the air that its not about my career or family reasons or a heartbreak that almost crushed my heart but couldn't break it( because hearts dont break, they get bruised and become better and stronger) . However, there are few reasons which I am sure you'll be able to relate and next time when people ask you this question,you'll  be able to answer them well and with confidence.

1) I Want To Make My Own Decisions -and till the time I dont find a guy who respects my self being and existence, stands by my choices if I'm right and guides me when I'm wrong instead of making issues, I want to remain single.

2) I Want To Explore Myself More - so that I'm clear in my head what i want and what i dont want from my relationship.

3) Long Lasting Relationship - I would want to make a life long commitment and sometimes being hasty in getting into relationships lands u up in heartbreaks and disappointments.

4) Organic Love- sometimes we end up experimenting with different people and dates hopin we would make a connection with one of them. But its also a fact that things are best when they happen organically. Sometimes the best love stories are formed on the foundation of best friendships which are least expected.

5) Love Freely - love is supposed to be free, its not something which must be done out of duty or formality because that is the surest way to kill it. And love is independent of relationships. When two people are in love, dating them or not hardly makes a difference.

6) Relationships Require Hardwork- a lot of compromises, sacrifices, energy and time is required to be put into a relationship and the result might not always be rewarding . So its better to wait for the one who reciprocates to your level of love and intensity.

7) Secured Partner- most importantly relationships are about equal partnerships dependent on mutual love and respect. Its not about one person becoming addicted and totally dependent on the other. Both the partners must be secured and sufficient in themselves and relationship must be able to uplift their lives rather than draining them of their energies.

Romantic relationships are beautiful and can prove to be one of the greatest parts of our lives but one must remember that this is not the only way one can experience greatness in life. Being in love, getting into relationships must be solely based on our choices and nothing else.

Signing off...till then keep smiling and have a great time.
Love,
Nidhi.