Dear You!

In the contemporary period, love has become one of the most underrated and misunderstood subjects of (I would not say discussion because we hardly have time for it). Nowadays, we see people 'liking' or 'obsessing' about at least somethings in their lives . But we hardly see them falling in love. And even if they do, its quite unimaginable to see them staying in it . Love has become an illusion and an impossible theory. Basically, what's happening is we are all confused about it. Marriage, relationships, friendships have all started to take the form of conveniences and comfort.

But the greatness of love lies in the fact that somehow or the other we are all dreaming about it. Some want to fall in love, some want to run away from it. Some equate it with "cheesy -ness" and some still believe in fairytales. Some are thinking of it every second and some have no time to think at all. Some are trying to find it and some are busy denying it. Some confuse it with something as shallow as attraction and some just let it go out of sheer stupidity. The truth is , we all are the product of love. Our survival and existence is dependent on this four letter emotion called love. But in this fast paced world, we hardly have time for it. We hardly bother to think about it. But somewhere, deep down, all of us crave to experience the beauty and reality of true love. But in order to do this, its very important to understand what love actually is.

You need to understand that love is a free flowing positive energy between souls. Its a barter system of emotions, efforts and sacrifices. Love is the most powerful expression capable of bringing life-changing experiences in your life. But to know what love is, you must understand what love is not.

If it doesn't inspire you to become greater , its not love. If it doesn't make you happier, its not love. If it doesn't calm the storms within you, its not love. If it doesn't accept your bruises, its not love. Love will not leave you, it never does. And if it leaves, then, it never was. Love will not be there for your face or your body or your money. It will be there for the flame burning inside you which only love can feel. It will be there for your song you sing which only love can hear. It will be there for your deepest wounds which only love can heal. And it will be there for your hidden tears which only love can kiss. 

Love will not only make your heart skip a beat but will also whisper it to keep on beating. It will not only be an adventure ride for you but also your home where you'll feel protected, safe and nurtured ..Love will not make you feel bad about yourself. That's not love's job to do. It will not make you feel small or unforgettable. Love will make you feel worthy. It will make you feel as if you are the magic.

And the moment you realise its not love, in that very moment you need to get out of it.. Because the truth is, it was not love. Because love never dies, it has no expiry date. And as soon as you understand this, you need to get out of that trap wrapped under the illusion of love, because that can destroy you my dear friend.

You need to let go of people who don't know how to love you. These people are the most dangerous species on earth because they will make you hate love. They will confuse you so badly between love and themselves that instead of running away from them, you'll start running away from love. And that might be fatal to your existence , because our survival is dependent on love. Love, that has no boundaries like our souls. Love, that doesn't change the way its supposed to be felt but only changes its form. Love shouldn't feel different, whether its between a mother and her children ; a husband and wife ; a girlfriend and boyfriend  ; brother and sister ; a dog and his master ; and the list goes on. Love doesn't feel different my friend, its a feeling of contentment, fulfillment and pleasure. You must feel loved when you are in love.

So you gotta stop loving people who give you only pain, drama, and sufferings ; who make you feel worthless and non existent ; who make you question your identity and individuality ; and most importantly who make you feel bad about love. As soon as you realise this, just stop. Stop giving too much to someone who doesn't appreciate it. Stop compromising on your self respect. Stop wasting your energy and love for someone who is not worth it. Stop degrading your values and principles.

My friend, you must learn to differentiate between real and fake people, and not real and fake love, because love is always real. You just gotta find the right ones. And by right , i dont mean perfect or flawless people, i simply mean them who own and love their flaws and will love yours too..

And when you find someone like this- someone who wants to be there for no agenda except love; someone who holds your hand when everyone else leaves; someone who makes an effort to be there with you; someone who appreciates your best and accepts your worst; someone who sees your spark when you seem dull to the world; someone who guides you, motivates you and inspires you; someone who wants to hug you so tight that all your broken pieces join together ; someone who knows all your darkness and loves you anyway ; someone for whom you are the brightest star; someone who feels like a home to you; someone who knows all your weaknesses but never uses them against you; someone who loves you like no one else does - you must hold them tighter ,love them back harder and never ever let them go..

But for that my friend, you need to let go of the wrong ones. Your heart has already done that because it knows how to heal itself. It wants to be happy and healthy. But its your brain which needs a reshuffling; where you have locked all the memories. Remember, letting go is a matter of one moment. The moment you decide that you deserve to be free from the pain , the moment you decide that you deserve the kind of love that you are willing to offer,  that very moment you'll be free and ready to be loved like you have never been loved before.

Love,
Nidhi.